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Writer's pictureSonya Barnes

A Refreshing Respite



(Cologne Cathedral; Cologne, Germany)


Most of you who follow me on social media know I recently took an 8-day river cruise in Europe. It was a different kind of vacation for someone who considers herself relatively well-traveled. I wanted one I wouldn't need a break from once I returned home if you know what I mean. I traveled with a dear friend I've known since 1989, and our energies aligned well. Many asked how was it? What did you enjoy, etc? Here's what I took away from doing and going someplace differently. I learned a lot about myself, why I do what I do, and how vital aligned energy is when you really need to get away and simply relax.


Cruising Reconsidered

(Longboat; the Rolf)


First, let me be clear, I had sworn off cruises! My previous cruises involved a large ship with too many people and screaming kids. Nope. I had done some research about luxury travel and cruising while working on my M.A. in Luxury & Fashion Management at Savannah College of Art & Design, so I was clear that if I were to ever take a voyage on water, it would have to be intimate with a minimal amount of people, no cheesy photographs being sold, no wristbands, etc. This was definitely that. I phoned my husband and said, “We're going to become cruisers." Easy plug-and-play. Huge benefit.


A river cruise versus an ocean cruise. It's just that. The boat is not the highlight though very nice. It was perfect for dining with the guests and "gentle" nightly entertainment, which included a piano player that reminded me of the limited HBO Max series, White Lotus, a quartet, and a bass band. The goal is to get off the boat and enjoy the cities where docked.


Travel Partner

As women, many of us have experienced traveling with friends only to discover particular qualms and quirks about them that, unfortunately, have ruined some friendships on the return home. From conversation to the ultimate desire to relax and allow, it made Diane (my travel partner) and I perfect for each other. Neither of us needed a break, wanted to do something totally different, and no complaining about anything! We both have adult sons, so the chit-chat about school-age shenanigans was null and void. We chuckle and are glad we're past that stage. I'm a grandmother of three, and she will join the joys with her first grandchild arriving in November.

(Rhine River at night Cologne, Germany)


We were active! We biked through the Black Forest (over 26 miles), took walking tours of castles and churches, listened to the history of each city, wandered off on our own, and simply immersed ourselves in the country's culture. I even drank beer, which I never do at home. But when in Germany, beer is the country's drink of choice. They call it liquid bread! LOL! So good. We stayed open to something different, new experiences, meeting new people without judgment or regard, and simply soaked in the cultures of each country.

It was so incredibly refreshing to not be anyone but me, Sonya. I connected deeply with myself. I wasn't playing ANY ROLE except me. Not entrepreneur, wife, mom, sister, daughter, Bella. Although I love who and what I am for my family, being me without distractions or requests was the most rewarding part of the vacation. Even posting on social media was light and fun, and I practiced doing reels while away. As business owners, we have to think of the post, the message, the picture, the hashtags, the call to action, etc., and it's rarely a random post just about us. Loved it!





Straugsburg, France (L) German Chocolate (C), Windmill, The Netherlands (L)


My mind quieted. I could hear my thoughts on things other than my responsibilities back home. No CNN, no Alexa, only my book and iPhone, which I chose music that felt good to and for my soul.


I discovered I didn't need nor want to talk a lot; I became an observer and sharpened my listening skills even more. Oh, the beautiful things you learn about people, and their exciting lives and experiences. We are seriously more alike than we are different.

(Me at peace in the rain, Rudesheim, Germany)


As a life and wellness coach, I received all types of rest, from spiritual to emotional, sensory, physical, and others. I was wholly renewed from a much-needed respite.


I returned with some insights:

  • a refined sense of direction personally and professionally

  • reacquainted with my inner gypsy spirit

  • the significance of a change of scenery

  • a heightened sense of the importance of mental health

  • The peace of anonymity and the lesson that a vacation doesn't eliminate what you left back home. It's simply a pause where clarity can be gained, and creativity can be fostered for your overall total wellness. After all....,

Wellness is the New Black

Live Well, Be Well,

Sonya

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sonyaderi
sonyaderi
18 ago 2023

Girl! Go on one! It was awesome!

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debjacena
17 ago 2023

Sonya, Interesting observations and I agree with you about most large cruise ships. We have enjoyed river cruises for many of the reasons you eloquently described. I would like suggest two cruises for consideration of those who like to travel. We took a boat along the coast of Norway. It was originally a mail boat and makes many stops - some are short to deliver mail, a refrigerator, whatever needs to be delivered. Locals also use it for transportation. Passengers can get off at any time and some stops are long (1/2 or full day) to visit more popular areas. We heard it described as "the cruise for people who are entertained by nature's beauty" (no casino, no midnight…


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sonyaderi
sonyaderi
18 ago 2023
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Thank you!!! I am putting Norway on my list!

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fwatlington
fwatlington
17 ago 2023

So beautiful-thanks for sharing! You confirmed for me my aversion to even the thought of a typical cruise, which everyone raves about. Thought for the longest that some must be wrong with me! Definitely gonna investigate a river cruise as a vacay option.


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